Truth or Non-Truth

What is it with Trust?
Everyone wants everyone to trust them…
Politicians, Strangers, Family, Friends, Co-Workers,
When is it ok to tell someone to their face the truth? We have become such a society filled with lies and deceit, that telling the truth has become taboo.
Think about it. Let give a very innocent example. Let say that there is a get together at your neighbors house that you are invited to, and go. Now lets say said “party” was not fun at all, and you just did not have the “click” that needs to happen for you to want to be their friend.
Here is what then usually happens. You do not tell your neighbor that you would prefer to keep your relationship on the “neighborly” level, you lie, and say that you had a great time, and “lets do it again sometime!” However, when those times arise, you conveniently always have something else to do, or go, and have another terrible time.
We have been trained to lie to save others feelings. Why? Are people so scared of rejection that they would rather you lie?
Why couldn’t this scenario instead go like this.
After the “party” you are polite, and say. You know, thank you so much for inviting us, good night.
The end. Do not feel obligated to say hey lets do it again, or any such jargon. Especially when you do not mean it.
If asked to come over again, once again, politely say no thank you.
IF you say this enough times, guess what, they will stop asking.
In doing such, you did not tell them that they were not your type of people, or that you were uncomfortable in their home, or their beliefs put you off. You simply thanked them for thinking of you, and then politely turned down their offer.
Now, here comes the part that I think most people have a hard time with…
If I do this, what will they think of me?
Who cares. What do you think of them? There must be a reason why you felt compelled to lie.
So if you do not care for them, why do you care what they think of you?
Perhaps they feel you are a stuck up yahoo, and would never invite you back again anyway!
I just think it is so dumb to lie to people and then in some cases suffer through your lie, like when they ask you to come over again, and because you lied in the first place, you feel obligated to lie again, so you go, and have a miserable time, then lie again…see the cycle. Stupid.
Sorry about this, but I have had this stuck in my craw, not because of my neighbors! But because of the whole presidential debate. I thought it sucked, and since I am a person who currently has no idea who she is going to vote for it really pissed me off and put me in this who don’t lie and cover things up mood.
Tell me what you are really going to try to do, and don’t tell me what you have already done, or what your opponent has not done. UGH.