Well, the fiasco with the mother and her children is over, she has changed her mind. So we are back to our original plan. At least we will be in Texas long enough to get the process of all the classes, and home studies complete, and be able to actually try again.
This has been a stressful, and trying time with these children.
They live in a terrible situation with all of their parents, and grandparents not even on the same continent as them, leaving them to whomever will take them in, and yet, they think they are fine, and do not understand that there is a better life out there.
The mother wanted to give them a better life, but then the grandparents, and the people she was living with stepped in, and said that they are her kids, and how could she give them away...so she changed her mind.
They are right, they are her children. But for the situation she has left them in, if she was living here, they would have been wards of the state by now.
But they live in a place that does not have the best interest of the children at heart, and so they will continue to live in that terrible place with no mother, father, or grandparents there to care for them.
And that will have to be alright with us. There are many children here at home that we could give a better life to, so we will go find them.
2 comments:
Melanie,
I'm so glad that you jumped on-board with the blog thing! I enjoyed reading it, and will add your link to mine. Sorry to hear about the kids mother changing her mind. That has got to be frustrating!
It is so frustrating when people make moms considering adoption feel they have a right to own the children; moms only have the obligation to give their kids the best life possible. My sister in law gave her baby up last year - most of the family was on board with it, one brother kept telling her the way to be responsible was to keep the kid and do what it takes. It has been such a hard thing, this open adoption, wanting to be an aunt, not knowing how much I should be a part of his life, but the baby is so much better off in a strong two parent home. Yes it hurts so much, but it's to give the child a better life.
This has to be so very hard on your heart, to open it up and hope ... best of luck.
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